“Hi Everyone, Jennifer Davidson from Switzerland writes this MUST READ, engaging article on how she overcame many hurdles with her inexpressive Parkinson’s client. Note her ongoing creativity. Many lessons to be learned here. Hugs, Gary” This post was first published on EFT Founder Gary Craig’s website, with the above introduction. Dear Gary Of the many clients I’ve worked with in Switzerland, I have particularly enjoyed the challenge presented by “Rene,” a gentle and initially inexpressive 64-year-old gentleman with Parkinson’s Disease. He has been quietly transformed, I believe, by the magic of EFT, and I’d like to share his story (with his permission; at his request, I’ve changed his name). Rene came to me seeking to reverse, or at least contain, the symptoms of Parkinson’s, with which he was diagnosed eight years ago:
Three Magic Letters: EFT! Slightly to my surprise, following a sudden impulse, I found myself at the zoo in Basel recently. Wandering along excitedly thinking “Lions and tigers and bears!” and wondering if there were elephants anywhere, I noticed a heavily tattooed and pierced mother with her little boy, age three or so. I was debating whether to accost her and enquire about elephants (she had a map) when the boy asked her a question. Instantly angry she snapped back at him, swearing loudly: “Because we f***ing left it at home, that’s why!” His face fell a mile. She was glowering, furious. I felt bad for both of them.
Sometimes it feels good to rant, vent, stomp, and let off steam. There’s a risk, though, that it can backfire and leave you feeling worse later. The good news is: you can have your cake and eat it too, provided you practice ranting-while-tapping (as opposed to “just-plain-ranting”). There’s a world of difference between the two. I’ve recently come up with a helpful analogy that I offer—albeit slightly cautiously—to my new clients. It’s a fundamentally un-lovely concept, I’m afraid. No beautiful rainbows and prancing unicorns here! Just a blocked toilet. And three words: “Tap the Crap.”
Have you ever considered how you talk to yourself? I sometimes do it out loud. It started, innocently enough, with me and my dog. “Hey BearBear,” I’d say brightly (she hiding, sensing what’s coming) “I know it’s pouring, but we do still have to go for a walk!” All too soon, this morphed into actually hearing myself say: “come on Jennifer, stop procrastinating and just do that …” (fill in the blank: nasty chore) Either way — whether our self-talk is aloud or in the privacy of our own head — the key thing is actually what words we use, and what tone of voice, as it were. This is especially important when things go wrong, when we fault or blame ourselves. I have found that playing with the pronouns you and I produces very interesting results. This applies, by the way, both to tapping and to normal self-talk.
Tapping is an excellent tool when you know what your problem is. Sometimes, however, we’re not quite sure what’s bothering us — we might have a general feeling of dissatisfaction, or feel disrupted, vaguely off-kilter, but not know why. Tapping in these situations is still the solution! (I sometimes find, with tapping, that the problem is a bad dream from the night before that I hadn’t consciously registered.)