Normally when I’m tapping, I like to use all nine key points and proceed in a leisurely manner. Sometimes, however, time or space are tight, and tapping on just one point can feel like a lifesaver. This was the case for me a couple of weeks ago. I had the pleasure, along with my fellow Holistic London practitioners, of manning our booth at the Mind Body Spirit Festival at Olympia. We were offering a free raffle and lots of information, and had a high level of footfall. It wasn’t the easiest time for me, however, as just days before my much-loved mother-in-law Joy had passed away, and my thoughts were with her and on her upcoming funeral, which I was helping my husband organize. (The photo below is me putting a brave face on it…)
Sometimes it feels good to rant, vent, stomp, and let off steam. There’s a risk, though, that it can backfire and leave you feeling worse later. The good news is: you can have your cake and eat it too, provided you practice ranting-while-tapping (as opposed to “just-plain-ranting”). There’s a world of difference between the two. I’ve recently come up with a helpful analogy that I offer—albeit slightly cautiously—to my new clients. It’s a fundamentally un-lovely concept, I’m afraid. No beautiful rainbows and prancing unicorns here! Just a blocked toilet. And three words: “Tap the Crap.”
I love this quote by Wayne Dyer: “With everything that has happened to you, you can either feel sorry for yourself, or treat what has happened as a gift. Everything is either an opportunity to grow, or an obstacle to keep you from growing. You get to choose.”
Have you ever considered how you talk to yourself? I sometimes do it out loud. It started, innocently enough, with me and my dog. “Hey BearBear,” I’d say brightly (she hiding, sensing what’s coming) “I know it’s pouring, but we do still have to go for a walk!” All too soon, this morphed into actually hearing myself say: “come on Jennifer, stop procrastinating and just do that …” (fill in the blank: nasty chore) Either way — whether our self-talk is aloud or in the privacy of our own head — the key thing is actually what words we use, and what tone of voice, as it were. This is especially important when things go wrong, when we fault or blame ourselves. I have found that playing with the pronouns you and I produces very interesting results. This applies, by the way, both to tapping and to normal self-talk.
Tapping is an excellent tool when you know what your problem is. Sometimes, however, we’re not quite sure what’s bothering us — we might have a general feeling of dissatisfaction, or feel disrupted, vaguely off-kilter, but not know why. Tapping in these situations is still the solution! (I sometimes find, with tapping, that the problem is a bad dream from the night before that I hadn’t consciously registered.)